Secondhand Fashion Week - Day Three
2:24 PMBethany:
Ok, so I was good yesterday and posted something more casual, but for today I'm thinking more frou frou. It is fashion week after all, right?
This skirt must be magic, because somehow it's a one size fits all. What? That's right; it faithfully stayed with me through nine months of pregnancy + good old postpartum, and it still fits as perfectly as the day I tried it on in the goodwill dressing room years ago and wayyy pre-baby.
The same cannot be said for the lovely lace top, which is only now fitting again as my measurements recede back to what they were before becoming devoted servants to a hungry baby.
Two entirely secondhand outfits:
Bethany
Hat - Eva Mae Modes
Lace overlay shirt - Papaya Clothing
Cameo broach - Gerry's
Jack
Skirt - Ann Ferriday
Angora sweater - ? no tags
High heel oxfords - Bongo
Suitcoat - Lullaby Club
Onesie - Gerber
Cloth diaper - Goodmama
I found these high heel oxfords the same day I stumbled upon the wedge tennies, and it was love at first sight. Esther laughed at me, because it's well known how I almost obsessively avoid lace up shoes and high heels, but even I could not resist. The next week, high heel oxfords hit all the blogs as the new fashion wonder, so I guess whoever dropped these at the goodwill was a step (harharhar) ahead of her time.
Esther:
Today FrouFrou? Gorgeous.
But for me, I hope jeans a la peanut butter works, because I barely managed to get dressed today at all. We just got home from the zoo (Wild Animal Park actually for those familiar with San Diego), where I nearly lost my mind, and my kids. They both run fast... in opposite directions, and if I could superglue them to me I would.
That combined with the wind tunnel going on outside my front door right now, I'm calling my look, "Hectic Hair Day."
Currently though, I'm locked inside my kids bedroom playing house. The pretend coffee is to die for. Pour me another cup. Very good, thank you Jamie. Why yes, I will have some hotdogs and lettuce with my coffee, how thoughtful..
As you might have noticed, I seem to have a penchant for picking up red things at the thrift store. Why I don't know, since I prefer to wear blue.
The rundown:
Red pendant necklace- Was $10 but I got it for $1 because I inadvertently found a pottery barn chair the thrift store thought had been stolen. Out of their supreme gratefulness they gave me the necklace for nearly nothing. True story.
Red wife beater- Forever 21
Sweater shirt- Charlotte Russe
Jeans- Charlotte Russe (not secondhand)
Toenail polish- Ulta...stolen from sister.
Shoes?- Who needs shoes
Extra points if you can spot the peanut butter stains on my jeans and my shirt.

Charlie:
Tshirt- Gap
Diaper- Fuzzibunz
Shoes- Converse (not secondhand unfortunately)

Esther:
Today FrouFrou? Gorgeous.
But for me, I hope jeans a la peanut butter works, because I barely managed to get dressed today at all. We just got home from the zoo (Wild Animal Park actually for those familiar with San Diego), where I nearly lost my mind, and my kids. They both run fast... in opposite directions, and if I could superglue them to me I would.
That combined with the wind tunnel going on outside my front door right now, I'm calling my look, "Hectic Hair Day."
Currently though, I'm locked inside my kids bedroom playing house. The pretend coffee is to die for. Pour me another cup. Very good, thank you Jamie. Why yes, I will have some hotdogs and lettuce with my coffee, how thoughtful..
As you might have noticed, I seem to have a penchant for picking up red things at the thrift store. Why I don't know, since I prefer to wear blue.
The rundown:
Red pendant necklace- Was $10 but I got it for $1 because I inadvertently found a pottery barn chair the thrift store thought had been stolen. Out of their supreme gratefulness they gave me the necklace for nearly nothing. True story.
Red wife beater- Forever 21
Sweater shirt- Charlotte Russe
Jeans- Charlotte Russe (not secondhand)
Toenail polish- Ulta...stolen from sister.
Shoes?- Who needs shoes
Extra points if you can spot the peanut butter stains on my jeans and my shirt.

Charlie:
Tshirt- Gap
Diaper- Fuzzibunz
Shoes- Converse (not secondhand unfortunately)

Secondhand Fashion Week - Day Two
11:18 AMEsther: I had a black and red outfit picked out today in honor of Bethany... Then I woke up and it was freezing outside, so I switched to a ribbed, longsleeve tee that was also red, but a bit more rugged than I was intending. One thing can throw off your whole planned outfit. Suddenly I wasn't sure if the vest worked with it anymore. I look like a gothic-bohemian-Twilighter. Where are you my Edward?
But that's the fun of this whole week right? I'm secondhanding it up baby, and trying new things.
From Top to Bottom:
Handmade choker that Charlie has broken a million times (including but not limited to today)
Homemade black pearl necklace made by me under the tutelage of my Auntie Sheri
Cozy ribbed t-shirt- The Buckle
Pinstriped vest- Wet Seal
Skinny jeans- brand unknown
Vintage red wedges- BC footwear

So here it is without the vest. I'm thinking the skinny jeans do no favors for my thighs. Bad thighs, go away.

...Ahhh. Much better.
I adore these shoes. 2 bucks, barely used at the AmVet thrift store downtown. You can see though, I am certainly doing my best to wear them out.
And here's my jewelry, plus a bonus angsty look from me. I wasn't having much success taking self portraits with the tripod and timer, so Jamie took this picture. Not bad little grasshopper. But if you don't mind, I'd like my camera back. I belong on the other side.
Bethany: For a homebody who likes to blend in and disappear into the background, I have a really really really hard time resisting, um... dramatic pieces.... and toning outfits down from including way too many of them. So this is me trying desperately to dress like a normal sane person-who-is-someone's-mother (a la classy Esther) and not a kid who wants to hold every single one of her toys at the same time. Ahem. I did try.
Bethany
Mock wrap shirt - Twenty-One
Jack
Shirt - Janie and Jack
Lace trimmed blouse - Mossimo
Skinny cords - SO
Skinny cords - SO
High top wedge tennis shoes - Lower East Side
Shirt - Janie and Jack
Jeans - Jumping Beans
Cloth diaper - Goodmama
My husband send me a link titled "Are 'Babies' the New Penguins?" so this shirt makes me chuckle now. Double the adorable goodness!
Thrifting for babies is awesome, because half the time they outgrow things before wearing holes and stuff (although the other half of the time they cover things in disgusting you-don't-wanna-know stains, hahaha).
My pants were a gift, but everything else is secondhand. The shoes baffle me; who would think that high top wedge tennis shoes would be a great idea? But they work well for short people like me.
Secondhand Fashion Week - Day One
4:48 PMWe both love thrifting. Although we've only been once together, we often regale each other with our respective tales of discovery and derring do. There were those designer maternity jeans, and that gorgeous leather jacket...
So needless to say, we were quite delighted to hear about this:

What fun! Anyone else want to join too?
Bethany:
I have not needed to go clothes shopping in a very long time (which is great when an afternoon dragging the firmly-believes-everything-is-edible toddler into dressing rooms too small for strollers doesn't sound terribly appealing... in other words, all the time these days). Living for years nearby a thrift store that routinely ran 50% off sales was great for quality over quantity people like me and not quite so great for the state of their (ahem, my) closets.
Fortunately my style hasn't changed much over the last few years. I'm still stuck in my good old color rut and layering like crazy to accommodate my finicky body temperature.
Bethany:
Velveteen jacket - SO
Mock wrap shirt - Ever Blue
Lace Layering Tank - Casual CornerPinstripe pants - Wet Seal
Gathered skirt - Speechless
Cuffs - handmade from scraps
Boots - Sketchers
Jack:
Romper - Carter's
Cloth diaper - Goodmama
Romper - Carter's
Cloth diaper - Goodmama
The outfit works well without the skirt. ^
Or with the skirt instead of pants (hello blinding white legs!).
(The horse is a hand-me-down too)
Esther:
Wants a pair of red boots like Bethany... and blue hair too.
Instead I dressed (or tried) in the spirit of Spring, all delicate colors that I'm told quite frequently I can't pull off, because I am a "Winter".
I stubbornly insist on attempting it anyway.
It's hot here, but not likely to stay that way, so in celebration (and freedom) it was time to pull out la shorts.

From bottom to top:
Leather gladiator sandals- Thrifted/Memphis 2007
Shorts- Old Navy
Yellow tank- Forever 21/Thrifted
White zippered hoodie thing: Hand-me-ups (hand-me-downs that come from younger sisters rather than older ones)
Necklace: a) pendant/salvaged from Michaels clearance bin, b) leather chord/stolen from moccasin kit in attic
Squinty, growly expression- Free...compliments of Monday.
Esther:
Wants a pair of red boots like Bethany... and blue hair too.
Instead I dressed (or tried) in the spirit of Spring, all delicate colors that I'm told quite frequently I can't pull off, because I am a "Winter".
I stubbornly insist on attempting it anyway.
It's hot here, but not likely to stay that way, so in celebration (and freedom) it was time to pull out la shorts.

From bottom to top:
Leather gladiator sandals- Thrifted/Memphis 2007
Shorts- Old Navy
Yellow tank- Forever 21/Thrifted
White zippered hoodie thing: Hand-me-ups (hand-me-downs that come from younger sisters rather than older ones)
Necklace: a) pendant/salvaged from Michaels clearance bin, b) leather chord/stolen from moccasin kit in attic
Squinty, growly expression- Free...compliments of Monday.
Don't Flatter Me
3:24 PMIt has probably become rather obvious here that I am all for tradition refreshed... or an eclectic mix of styles. I loved Two Gentlemen from Verona set in the twenties, and now I'm fully convinced that the silent film era works wonderfully for morality tales as well. At least when attempted by Tony DiTerlizzi.
The story is a classic, the illustrations are mesmerizing and memorable. I suppose if you want your children to remember a lesson, this creatively creepy tale should do the trick.
Flash Fiction Friday
3:19 PM
We've got two drastically different morsels of fiction for you this week.
The short and sweet. (literally...yum)
Bethany~
"I don't believe it," Shannon said, not even glancing up from her homework.
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The cynical. (inspired by Vox Popoli's Game theory)
Esther~
Jason had never felt so foolish in his life and he hoped he'd never feel so foolish again.
The short and sweet. (literally...yum)
Bethany~
"I don't believe it," Shannon said, not even glancing up from her homework.
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The cynical. (inspired by Vox Popoli's Game theory)
Esther~
Jason had never felt so foolish in his life and he hoped he'd never feel so foolish again.
Reviewing The 50 mm Lens
8:58 PM
Photography's a slippery slope. When I was shooting with a film point&shoot, I was convinced all I needed was a digital camera. I was (am) such a cheapwad about developing film that it took me months and months to fill up an entire roll. I would always think "is there a better picture I could be taking with this money?". Not a bad mantra, all things considered, but I should have told my 12 year old self that someday I'd spend thousands and thousands of dollars on photography anyway. I should have taken a chill pill back then. Or now. (I still need one)
So I got a digital camera, but all the masterpieces in my head turned out looking more like toddler fingerpainting...metaphorically (I only wish my pictures looked like fingerpainting). The answer of course was not my lack of skill or talent, it was the camera. If I had a decent camera, I could be the next Man Ray. Obviously.
So I graduated to a DSLR: Minolta, Olympus, then Nikon. Bad, Better, Best. Loved them all. But the camera itself doesn't make your pictures look much better. This is where I'm supposed to say it's the persons talent and skill that makes the picture better... or the ever popular "it's not the camera, it's the person behind the camera."... blah blah blah.
Brilliant words. I've said them myself. *blush*
But there is a little secret. It's all about lenses.
More specifically. There is one lens that is both super useful and inexpensive. The 50 mm 1.8 (or 1.4). Here it is for Canon too.
Unfortunately most camera lenses cost more money than the camera itself. Fortunately this 50 mm lens checks out for about $100, and I kid you not, it is almost impossible to take a bad picture with it.
You know all those pictures professionals take where the background is blurry, but the subject is sharp and in focus? Yup. This lens will do that.
Frustrated by the lack of poor indoor lighting that makes everyone look like fuzzy ghosts or requires you to use a flash? Yup. this lens solves that too.
Have problems focusing fast enough before you find your subject has wiggled away? Yup. Ding, ding, ding, we have a winner folks.
Personally, I couldn't live without mine.
So I got a digital camera, but all the masterpieces in my head turned out looking more like toddler fingerpainting...metaphorically (I only wish my pictures looked like fingerpainting). The answer of course was not my lack of skill or talent, it was the camera. If I had a decent camera, I could be the next Man Ray. Obviously.
So I graduated to a DSLR: Minolta, Olympus, then Nikon. Bad, Better, Best. Loved them all. But the camera itself doesn't make your pictures look much better. This is where I'm supposed to say it's the persons talent and skill that makes the picture better... or the ever popular "it's not the camera, it's the person behind the camera."... blah blah blah.
Brilliant words. I've said them myself. *blush*
But there is a little secret. It's all about lenses.
More specifically. There is one lens that is both super useful and inexpensive. The 50 mm 1.8 (or 1.4). Here it is for Canon too.
Unfortunately most camera lenses cost more money than the camera itself. Fortunately this 50 mm lens checks out for about $100, and I kid you not, it is almost impossible to take a bad picture with it.You know all those pictures professionals take where the background is blurry, but the subject is sharp and in focus? Yup. This lens will do that.
Frustrated by the lack of poor indoor lighting that makes everyone look like fuzzy ghosts or requires you to use a flash? Yup. this lens solves that too.
Have problems focusing fast enough before you find your subject has wiggled away? Yup. Ding, ding, ding, we have a winner folks.
Personally, I couldn't live without mine.
My Best Thing
4:59 AMMy just-barely-toddler child has very little interest in listening to a book read aloud. Books are for fine dining experiences, for displaying Olympic feats of strength, for occasionally practicing the fine art of speed page turning. His disinterest does not prevent me from attempting lure him into listening though. Sometimes he'll sit on my lap for a few pages before throwing an epic tantrum. Sometimes I just give up and read loudly while he runs around the room completely ignoring me (but fully prepared to have a meltdown should I dare step out of the room).
We've slowly been working through Jack Prelutsky's Behold the Bold Umbrellaphant, which we finished along with Eve Bunting's The Banshee.
Behold the Bold Umbrellaphant is a collection of quirky poems about inanimate object animals such as the above Clocktopus. The poems are clever and hilarious--of course!--and the illustrations by Carin Berger are equally striking and creative. I think my vocabulary increases every time I read something by Jack Prelutsky, and not just with Lewis Carroll-esque words.

I'll be honest: I checked out The Banshee purely because of the peacock feather on the cover. We still have a jar full of them on our mantle, leftovers from our wedding and matching its colors.
While Jack did not deign to read the book along with me, he did get into the, er, spirit of the story by running around me shrieking gleefully. The Banshee tells of a young boy who fears that a banshee might be crying outside his house. Acting bravely despite his fear, the boy takes his best thing as an offering in the hope that he might find the banshee and buy back the life of his loved one with the sacrifice of his treasure. The lovely illustrations by Emily Arnold McCully reminded me of how dark and terrifying our yard seemed at night when I was a kid. It was so easy to imagine all sorts of terrors lurking. I'm not sure if I'd have had the guts to go out there alone to meet a banshee or the heart to give up my best thing, but books give us a chance to be vicariously daring.
To haunt your daydreams
5:26 AM
Reviews call Mirrormask "a demented fairy tale," and I call it one of my guilty not-so-secret secrets. I love this movie passionately, and all my friends and family and curious acquaintances think I am insane. Everyone has his or her own preferences when it comes to art, humor, story, etc, and apparently Mirrormask combines versions of each to form a concoction to suit tastes so remote (ahem, uh) esoteric (whew) that it baffles and bores my friends but delights me (I hear that there are many other people love this movie too, but I have yet to meet these kindred spirits). In my mind, the only way this movie could have been better would have been if it had actually included Muppets. I am sure Sweetums would blend right in.
But I'm reviewing the soundtrack here. Quirky, frenetic, and lovely, full of unique melodies and possibly a lot less freaky if you don't already associate it with evil cats sporting human faces. You don't have to have a particular remote sense of humor to appreciate Iain Ballamy's creative and unforgettable score. My husband gave me the CD along with the movie for Valentine's two years ago, and my copies of both are well worn. Did I mention that the music helps greatly with the illusion that housework can have an element of the fantastical? Stunning in every way.
Flash Fiction Friday
10:27 PM
As promised, here's the second installment of Flash Fiction Friday. If you'd like to come out of your own shell and submit a flash fiction piece to us to publish here on the blog. Email us at fairiesandfrenchfries at gmail.
You're going to get sick of these Gail Carson Levine writing prompts before we're done, because she has a lot of them. That woman has no bottom to her creativity.
Bethany's: Issy was a small dog, a fluffy dog, the sort of dog that barks like small sharp knives and pees every hour, preferably on expensive furniture and favorite toys.
Esther's: I have one green eye and one brown eye. The green eye sees truth, but the brown eye sees so much more.
You're going to get sick of these Gail Carson Levine writing prompts before we're done, because she has a lot of them. That woman has no bottom to her creativity.
Bethany's: Issy was a small dog, a fluffy dog, the sort of dog that barks like small sharp knives and pees every hour, preferably on expensive furniture and favorite toys.
Esther's: I have one green eye and one brown eye. The green eye sees truth, but the brown eye sees so much more.
Ignore the term "Literary"
12:28 PM
I don't know about you, but the word "Literary" used to be something I revered-- something smart. That was back when I actually worried about looking smart. Now I don't really care, my standard being "anything I like", but watch-- in another 26 years I will probably have completely gone the other way and read nothing but high literature.
In this case however, "anything I like" turns out to be something literary. Although it's online, so maybe that takes it's cool points down a notch or two. Who knows.
Whatever the case, you have to go read it. Anything that can make you smile, and make your eyes water in less than 250 words is inspiring.
Boston Literary Magazine. Read "Test Day" by Teresa Houle
In this case however, "anything I like" turns out to be something literary. Although it's online, so maybe that takes it's cool points down a notch or two. Who knows.
Whatever the case, you have to go read it. Anything that can make you smile, and make your eyes water in less than 250 words is inspiring.
Boston Literary Magazine. Read "Test Day" by Teresa Houle
Mice and Man
3:42 PMWe used to have a normal computer with a normal monitor on a normal desk in a normal room. Then everything went crazy, and now we have a new computer on a giant TV screen in a room with no chairs, yep, our bedroom.
My husband loves this setup, but frankly I'm not a huge fan. It's hard to get in the mood for some serious writing when you're reclining in bed. What, I'm complaining about reclining in bed?? Well, that's another story, one which I am happy to say includes my husband giving me a shiny laptop so I can.... sit at a desk again, hahaha.
This story, like so many others, starts with a problem. This problem, unlike so many others, starts with a mouse and a (small) man.
Jack is already in love with technology. Cell phones are his favorite (yum yum), but mice and keyboards vie for the next spot in his affections.
He has enough love for them all.
Having his own computer gear does not decrease his interest in the real thing. Thus we decided that using corded keyboard and mouse was no longer practical.

Besides offering the opportunity for Jack to create magnificent knots that would confound a boy scout, wires complicated the process of the Grand Escape. Wires only go so far, and in this case "so far" meant "from the computer to the very foot of the bed." Whenever Jack would lose interest in his laptop and hurl himself in the general direction of the parent who was huddled typing awkwardly at the end of the bed, there was only so much range of motion. Did I mention that also at some point the other parent would generally barrel through the room on a mission of some sort or another and trip on the cords?
All in all a bad situation. So how could we possibly go from huddled to reclining?
Enter a wireless keyboard and mouse. These lovelies may easily be whipped out of the way of grabby little hands, moved to the head of the bed, the floor, the dresser, or whatever is the most convenient. So long as the sensor is in the front of the computer and the tools are faced forward, everything works marvelously. A little too marvelously. Mmm, time for a nap....The Great Divorce Part Two: Awe-Inspiring Audio
2:14 PMI am embarrassed to admit that up until a couple years ago I thought all audiobooks were created equal, and by equal I meant simply. After all, how difficult is it to read a book aloud? My mom read aloud to me and my brother nearly every night when we were kids. We were always fascinated, for sure, but that was because of the story, right? A reader is merely the vehicle providing an aural form of reading. Or so I assumed.

Twenty plus hours of one audiobook finally opened my eyes... er.... ears? I was midway through listening to a monstrously sized box of cassettes when the library summoned its child back home from our playdate. Quite naively I picked up another copy of the same audiobook by a different reader. The difference was astonishing. In the defense of the second reader, I had already spent a good solid dozen hours reveling in the artistry of an amazing interpretation. Even had the second reader been brilliant, he still would have been the second.

A good reader is rather like a good movie or a good dancer. The qualities that make for an amazing performance demand a touch so delicate that if successful it will barely or not be noticed at all. Thus, oddly enough, a poor performance is likely to stand out far more than a stellar one. In a way, it's even like health... so long as things are running fine, you might even forget about it altogether, but the moment things deteriorate, every little detail is painfully apparent.

So I learned something. It's a lot harder to read aloud than I thought, and my mom is an awesome reader. Now I also remember the names of particularly impressive (in a good way) readers so I can check out their other works.
That is how I ended up with a C.S. Lewis audiobook collection that included The Great Divorce as read by Robert Whitfield. I've already discussed my thoughts on the story itself, but I wanted to add my thoughts on the audiobook presentation.

There's a reason why people like Jim Dale win awards for their audiobook presentations. Just an average performance requires one person to act an entire cast of characters using only voice. A good reader does this without resorting to growls for the men and sing-song for the women; somehow he or she will represent characters of all genders and ages so inconspicuously that the listener will never be distracted with irritating thoughts about how terrible that middle aged man sounds as a teenage girl and such. Robert Whitfield is splendid at portraying a range of average and extreme characters with what seems like great ease. I will note that one interpretation that did distract me with its unexpected and in my mind unduly diffident tone. However, considering that by now I've heard him voice well over fifty characters, one doesn't seem much of a tarnish to his track record.
Introducing "Flash Fiction Friday"
5:43 PM
We have secrets here at Fairytales and Frenchfries.
We write.
Maybe that seems obvious, but it gets worse.
We write fiction. Novels even (or are in the process of working on them).
Admitting this seems a little bit like pasting a big, fat "delusional" sticker on our foreheads. But everyone has to start somewhere and you can't get better if you don't write, and you can't get better if you don't actually let people read what you write.
So we're throwing our hats over the fence (or in this case our laptops, notepads and plot charts), by posting a piece of Flash Fiction every Friday. (flash fiction is a 1000 words or less)
Click through for more than the opening sentence. Bethany's is first, then mine. We are both working off of writing prompts out of Gail Carson Levine's book Writing Magic. (which we will review at some point in time).
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Stars.
They met on the stairsteps in the middle of the afternoon.
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The ghost was eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
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We write.
Maybe that seems obvious, but it gets worse.
We write fiction. Novels even (or are in the process of working on them).
Admitting this seems a little bit like pasting a big, fat "delusional" sticker on our foreheads. But everyone has to start somewhere and you can't get better if you don't write, and you can't get better if you don't actually let people read what you write.
So we're throwing our hats over the fence (or in this case our laptops, notepads and plot charts), by posting a piece of Flash Fiction every Friday. (flash fiction is a 1000 words or less)
Click through for more than the opening sentence. Bethany's is first, then mine. We are both working off of writing prompts out of Gail Carson Levine's book Writing Magic. (which we will review at some point in time).
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Stars.
They met on the stairsteps in the middle of the afternoon.
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The ghost was eating a peanut butter and jelly sandwich.
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A bridge by which I might get back from exile
4:47 AMC.S. Lewis is very possibly the most widely distributed author in our family library. His books grace the children's bookshelf as well as various shelves devoted to theology, poetry, sci-fi, fantasy, non-fic, literature, you name it. There are even a couple of books about him on our biography shelf. If you've read or heard of The Four Loves, then you probably are aware that C.S. Lewis had much to say on the subject of love. He speaks of it eloquently in the book devoted specifically to the topic, but he doesn't limit his message to those willing to plow through pontifications on the topic. He takes the seeds of the same thoughts and scatters them through his novels and his poetry, each seed springing into life through story.
All this flashy rhetoric about loving you.
I never had a selfless thought since I was born.
I am mercenary and self-seeking though and through:
I want God, you, all friends, merely to serve my turn.
Peace, reassurance, pleasure, are the goals I seek,
I cannot crawl an inch outside my proper skin:
I talk of love--a scholar's parrot may talk Greek--
But, self imprisoned, only end where I begin.
~"As the Ruin Falls"
Love, not the sweet valentinish sort but rather the petulant and possessive type that masquerades as nobility, runs through many of his writings. The Four Loves instructs, explaining and reasoning with great care. Till We Have Faces grips, draws in, and throttles. The poems haunt.
Only that now you have taught me (but how late) my lack.
I see the chasm. And everything you are was making
My heart into a bridge by which I might get back
From exile, and grow man. And now the bridge is breaking.
~"As the Ruin Falls"
The Great Divorce is amongst this crowd, and it is a perfect soapbox for C.S. Lewis' thoughts on the miseries we all bring upon ourselves and others in the name of love and dignity. The story follows a character who finds himself traveling with and observing a group of people faced with the prospect of choosing between misery and joy, a choice complicated by the fact that joy requires sacrificing grudges and glories. I read the book as a teenager and found it rather on the dull side, but it is short, the audiobook a mere two CDs. The plot hasn't changed--it's still on the dull side--but the plot is not the point of the story. It doesn't follow the traditional arc of conflicts leading to conclusion, it is more like a series of vignettes that give a clear picture of the foolishness bound up in our own natural hearts.
"There is always something they insist on keeping, even at the price of misery. There is always something they prefer to joy--that is, to reality. Ye see it easily enough in a spoiled child that would sooner miss its play and its supper than say it was sorry and be friends. Ye call it the Sulks. But in adult life it has a hundred fine names--Achilles' wrath and Coriolanus' grandeur, Revenge and Injured Merit and Self-Respect and Proper Pride."
Each picture is, by virtue of its truth, vivid and uncomfortable. How often do I cut off my nose to spite my face, making excuses to lash out at others rather than admit my fears and failures when a gracious word would not only soothe others but myself as well.
And yet there is hope. The self imprisoned, as C.S. Lewis says, are not allowed to blackmail the universe. The name of love might be corrupted and abused, but love itself remains uncontaminated and eventually triumphant for those who embrace it. There is a bridge by which we may get back from exile.
For this I bless you as the ruin falls. The pains
You give are more precious than all other gains.
~"As the Ruin Falls"
You'll Regret it Later (but not now)
5:00 AMNot I.
It would be great if I could claim that my reason for throwing caution (and experience) to the wind was boldness or bravery, but in actuality, my memory just has a knack for glossing over unpleasantness. This does have its benefits, and in fact is very likely the only reason why I can say "five months pregnant" at all without a mighty and heartfelt shudder.
However, it also has its drawbacks. Which is why I found myself (again) feeling five months pregnant (again) when I'm not actually pregnant at all (how many times can I say pregnant in this post?).
When I was a kid, my mom used to tell me about the time she ate an oversized chocolate bar and got oh so sick. When I was a kid I'd shake my head in disbelief when I heard adults insist, "a smaller piece of cake please, it's just too rich!"
When I was a kid I read a comic that said you know you're grown up when your innards start dictating your life, or something to that effect. It's a sad sad truth. I won't regale you with more tales of my gastric activities, but suffice it to say I too find myself thinking of some foods as "too rich" these days. Alas.
But on to the review. A few months ago I bought some of my favorite treats from Trader Joe's.
Belgian Butter Almond Thins. These are so tasty and so, uh, rich that a few should be enough, but I quite foolishly downed.... a lot of them. And regretted it later. I made sure to not overindulge again, but months passed before we made it back to Trader Joe's.
What with friends and family in town, festivities, and projects, we've been revisiting our local Trader Joe's for their amazing stock of truly wonderful snacks. While browsing the cookie aisle, I came across chocolate covered Belgian Butter Thins. How could I resist?
I couldn't. A box came home with us, and this time I only ate... eight. Still, the serving size is three, and I had completely forgotten my previous experience, so once again I regretted the excess. I definitely did not regret the choice though. Buy these if you want an amazing treat. Stick to three if you want to love your stomach later though.
Do you cry when you read?
8:49 PM
I was reading Orson Scott Card's blog today (or rather, one of his blogs), and he mentioned his son-in-law crying while listening to an audio book (as he was running a marathon incidentally).
This, for some reason, was astounding to me.
Jim pulled the car off the freeway the first time he saw actual rivulets of saline running down my face while reading a book. We were on a road trip and he was convinced there was some dire and truly serious reason for my crying. Yes and no, depending on how serious you think Walter dying in Rilla Of Ingleside is. It wasn't the first time I'd cried through that book, nor was it the last (confession there). Jim was honestly flabbergasted.
That incident made me think maybe crying through books wasn't exactly normal among men... or even people in general.
Now I'm not so sure.
Do you ever cry when you read a book? Does your significant other?
Do you laugh out loud? Or are you just laughing and/or crying on the inside?
This, for some reason, was astounding to me.
Jim pulled the car off the freeway the first time he saw actual rivulets of saline running down my face while reading a book. We were on a road trip and he was convinced there was some dire and truly serious reason for my crying. Yes and no, depending on how serious you think Walter dying in Rilla Of Ingleside is. It wasn't the first time I'd cried through that book, nor was it the last (confession there). Jim was honestly flabbergasted.
That incident made me think maybe crying through books wasn't exactly normal among men... or even people in general.
Now I'm not so sure.
Do you ever cry when you read a book? Does your significant other?
Do you laugh out loud? Or are you just laughing and/or crying on the inside?
Escape From Azkaban Hair.
9:45 AM
This is me at 10.

And it was not a bad hair day. This was a normal hair day.
Unfortunately.
The quest of any curly haired person is to tame the frizz. The older I've gotten the more extreme the good hair days and bad hair days are. Some days I don't know whether to be grateful, or just give up and shave my head.
I call my bad hair days Helena Bonham Carter days.
My cousin-in-law (the one who's a hair stylist in Hollywood), sent me this product: Mixed Chicks

And it is the gel/lotion/conditioner/mouse/serum/spray/bug juice I have been looking for my whole life.
Finally, happy curls. In hair talk that means soft, glossy and defined without being dangerously crunchy feeling...or frizzy. At the risk of scaring you all away from ever trying it, here is the result.
I hasten to add, that while my photographer (my sister) was fantastic, my eyes really aren't that blue (Nor am I that pale. But I do sleep in a coffin.)
So anyway, awesome stuff. I plan on sending Bethany a bottle... as soon as I send her their Christmas presents.

And it was not a bad hair day. This was a normal hair day.
Unfortunately.
The quest of any curly haired person is to tame the frizz. The older I've gotten the more extreme the good hair days and bad hair days are. Some days I don't know whether to be grateful, or just give up and shave my head.
I call my bad hair days Helena Bonham Carter days.
My cousin-in-law (the one who's a hair stylist in Hollywood), sent me this product: Mixed Chicks

And it is the gel/lotion/conditioner/mouse/serum/spray/bug juice I have been looking for my whole life.
Finally, happy curls. In hair talk that means soft, glossy and defined without being dangerously crunchy feeling...or frizzy. At the risk of scaring you all away from ever trying it, here is the result.
I hasten to add, that while my photographer (my sister) was fantastic, my eyes really aren't that blue (Nor am I that pale. But I do sleep in a coffin.)So anyway, awesome stuff. I plan on sending Bethany a bottle... as soon as I send her their Christmas presents.
Through Thick and Thin
5:00 AMIt's not exactly an easy thing to find clothing that will stick with you through the best of times and the worst of times, but it is well neigh impossible to find clothing that will gracefully endure the unbelievable bodily changes that accompany childbearing and all that entails. Pregnancy brings a whole new meaning to the idea of having tons of clothes but nothing to wear. And then there's nursing. Ugh.
Now grace is anything but my middle name. That dubious spot is more likely occupied by laziness, which would explain why there was an unusual amount of overlap between my regular, pregnancy, and nursing wardrobes. That being said, there are still only a few items that served me well and gracefully (as opposed to oddly and awkwardly *gulp*) in my carefree days as well as throughout most of pregnancy (they are excused that last month, at least) and nursing.
Personal clothes shopping is a diversion has taken backseat since I have a much funner, cuter, itty bittier person to shop for now. Something did sneak its way into my bag as I was shopping for gifts for friends yesterday, though. Love the colors, love the stripes, love the stretch that sucks in my post-baby belly and the bunches that disguise those miscellaneous leftover other bulges I also like to blame on the baby.
I was embarrassed to note upon arriving home that I already have four similar shirts in my wardrobe.
These shirts are not fairweather friends, though, so I feel at least somewhat justified in surrounding myself with them. Aside from the praises I just sang, their favorable attributes extend to pregnancy as well. I could show you pictures of myself wearing them in the second and third trimesters, but remember my middle name? So here's an attempt to momentarily recreate what it might have looked like. Oof.
And finally, these shirts work fabulously for nursing as well. Stretchy? Drapy? Perfect.
Did I mention they layer wonderfully when it gets chilly outdoors? These are definitely worth stockpiling.
What are your favorite dependable and versatile wardrobe staples?



